Him: How'd you end up in DC?
Me: I went to school here.
Him: Maryland?
Me: Naw.
Him: Oh you must be one of them Howard girls.
Me: *I wish 'Cousin' would hurry up and get here.* Yeah.
Him: Yeah you probably joined one of them sar-rar-uh-teez too.
Me: Yep.
Him: Oh you too good for me then.
Me: *tight lip*brow knit* Am I supposed to tell you I'm not too good for you?
Him: see, dat's the shyt I'm talkin bout right there.
Me: *This month is going to be hard.*
It's no secret, which sorority I belong to. Gosh, doesn't that sound cultish? Belong to? Most of the people reading this know that certain sororities supposedly match certain fraternities. Yes, I'm dumbing this down. Anyhow, I would guess my ideal is supposed to be a certain gold boot wearing, barking man. Ha! The one I'm supposed to be drawn to...A perfect match for. Thanks Edna, Frank!
Side Note: As I'm writing this, in my mind I head that song from School Daze, Perfect Match.
And I know, based on so many of my associates who are members of the pan-hell organizations (
Save the Iotas cus I have yet to befriend one of them. Honestly, and don't tell them I said this, I think they are an urban legend. A figment of some drunken UPS workers imagination. Remind me to detail that one later.), that some of us have this idea that our mate must be a member of a certain fraternity or sorority. For some, it's an obsession.
Funny Story: I know a guy who dated this girl. Thought she was the prettiest, smartest thing this side of Heaven. She'd been making mention of her linesisters here and again. But the man assumed she was either a Delta or AKA. When she said she was actually a Zeta, she immediately became flawed. He said she was still smart and pretty, but her being a Zeta caused him to be preoccupied with finding out what was wrong with her. After all, in his Kappa mind, something had to be wrong with her if she was a Zeta. That was their last date.
I can look at my line along with some of my closest friends who are also sorors, and say we are not all the same. So if a man is looking for a Delta, that wouldn't be enough to put on his list. We're all so, so, different even in our similarities, that he'd better be very specific about the Delta he wants. Sure we're all great. I won't argue with you on that point.
I'm oh so humble. But do we all fit into the same box? Do we all fit the stereotypes? I think this holds true for the other sororities and fraternities. With the exception of Kappas cus we all know how superficial they are. :-)
I bet some non-members are asking, "Wow. Is it that deep?"
Thing is, membership in these organizations is a main non-negotiable on some folks' 'Perfect Match' list. They won't even look at someone who doesn't know secrets. Someone who can't wear 'letters'! Just like some people won't even deal with someone without at least one degree, this whole sorority/fraternity thing is just that important to some people.
And I'm not going to lie, membership does have its privileges. I have participated in 'Greek' nepotism just like I've participated in HBCU nepotism. But ti consider it as a must-have in my relationships just doesn't make sense for me. So long as my guy understands that I am a dues paying member and will always be one, and I'll be brainwashing exposing our kids early, I'm good.
I have noticed that this obsession seems more likely with people who pledged graduate chapters.
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