Think Pretty Smart: Rejection

Look, I'm all for on-line dating. But I've seen enough. My girl interrupted my perfectly good evening with some bullshyt that has me undone. She went out with this guy she met on-line for a quick drink. They are sitting there and somehow they get into an argument about government spending. See, he works for some republican and is one himself. He doesn't appreciate people who can't manage their money and expect hand-outs. They get beyond that. Have a couple of drinks and the bill comes.

This MF's card was DECLINED, for $40! He did not offer another card, cash, or even call the bank to see what was up. Mr. Fiscally Responsible Republican couldn't afford $40! Let's look at where dude went wrong.

He is the one who reached out to her on-line. He shouldn't be reaching out to anyone if he can't afford $40. He needs to be evaluating his life space. When a man asks me out, I do expect for him to pay--especially if it's a first date. However, I always have enough to cover the bill. The entire bill. Always. I have yet to need to pay it. And in TWO instances, I have even offered to reimburse dudes when things go sour and they start talking about the money they spent.

He asked her out. He shouldn't be asking anyone out if he can't afford $40. See above. You mean to tell me, men are out here 35+ but can't afford $40!? What would have happened if she refused to pay? She could have just gotten up and left because she'd already decided she wasn't going to go out with him again because he started an argued on a first date.

We told her not to go out with him. The first time he asked her out, he hemmed and hawed about location and settled on the mall. Yes, the mall where teenagers hang out. When she dug a bit, he let her know he was choosing that because he didn't have a car. See?! We told her ass not to fool with him. We aren't in NYC and dude doesn't live in DC proper. He lives in the burbs. You have to have a car in the burbs. I appreciate her being open to possibilities but nothing about this dude said she should spend her Tuesday evening with him.

She's dated a lot in the last year and I'm always amazed at her stories. What's with men having no date ideas? This cats don't have first date options! She's actually had a guy suggest they go to a bar and watch a poker tournament on TV. But at least he had a suggestion. There were others who had nothing but offering to cook her dinner. If they read her profile, they would know it's probably not an idea to cook for her because of what she does for a living. Not to mention, what woman goes to a strange man's house on a first date? Not one who values her life!

Then we have inappropriate behavior. When did arguing on a date become a good idea? And when the hell did coming down the steps naked on a third date became the hotness? Oh it's happening. I thought when it happened to her, it was a fluke. But as she's told the story more, we've found that men are getting women to their houses, going to another room and returning naked. When is this working? It has to be working or else men wouldn't be doing it.

I have to believe that there are still men out here who have good sense. I have to! Her dating adventures are funny but sad. I get approached but I just don't date that much. Her stories scare me. At the same time, they make me feel like my decision to pass on most of the dudes who approach me is a good one.